How did you like that class in Seminary covering how to run a small business?
Your congregation seems to expect you to be perfect; to never makes mistakes and to never need help.
You have some demanding church members.
Do you do the things you need to do to stay functional?
Did you learn how to hire, train, and discipline staff in seminary?
Do you manage conflict in your congregation without acquiescing just to keep peace or conversely issuing edicts?
Do you feel equipped to deal with serious issues your congregation members face?
Being a pastor is a tremendous privilege. Answering a deeply felt call can offer you the gift of a profoundly fulfilling life's-work.
Many of our cultural expectations about church and pastors are a huge, destructive set-up. You are set-up to be unnecessarily uncomfortable and unhappy.
The biggest set-up is the belief that pastors already know what they need to know and don't need - and should not want - professional help (other than spiritual direction).
Another set-up is that many congregations members (and pastors) don't understand the difference between Christian love and codependence. Christian love is NOT the same thing as being nice.
People believe that conflict is non-Christian, but there is no ongoing group of humans that does not experience differences of opinion and conflict.
When you risk exploding these inaccurate, toxic cultural beliefs, you can start experiencing a more fulfilling life and vocation as well as leading your congregation to a more dynamic, fulfilling and honest understanding of what it means to be a human and a Christian.
I'm a preacher's kid; I know for sure that pastors are human beings that do not have perfect lives and do not always know what to do in every situation.
I have a master's degree in social work and worked for over 20 years as a therapist before I opened my holistic coaching practice in 2003.
Many of my clients are small business owners in service oriented businesses. I'm familiar with the issues that come up in a small business (and a church is indeed a small business).
Breaking through barriers to achieve the balance and fulfillment you want in your vocation and your life is simpler, easier, and faster when you work with an experienced professional.
We'll use highly-focused phone appointments to help you clarify what you want and define the steps you need to take to get there. We'll work together to identify and dismantle roadblocks and guide you through the actions you need to complete to build your ideal profession and life. We work together to create clear, realistic objectives for you to complete between calls.
I request an initial six-call commitment of coaching clients. Most clients benefit from scheduling twice-monthly calls but your situation may call for a different schedule. Call (616) 644-2967 or e-mail today to schedule your FREE INITIAL CONSULTATION or to learn more.
I have a sliding fee scale for pastors. Call or email me to explore your specific situation.